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Thanks Distressed, for letting me know the tensed situation at home. However, do not be quick to blame your SIL. Christian or not, we are still very human. We have feelings. i mentioned somewhere in other boards with Antioch that the world sees Christians are unfailing, cannot do wrong and all angelic types. the moment we make a small mistake, they point at us. I sensed that your SIL is having post-natal blues. Having to cope with 2 kids can be very tiring. And having to face her hubby and the usual squabbles can trigger suicidal thoughts. I thanked God for giving me 2 kids who are 8 years apart. If i had them sooner or closer in age gap, I think I will not be able to handle them. Your SIL may be wanting to 'show off' and impress your mom about herself as a good daughter in law and a good mother herself. So she may not show appreciative of any form of help. Also post natal blues is very serious. With baby cries non-stop and a young child to care for at the same time, any woman can be driven to tears in the matter of seconds. A dear friend of mine recently became a father. I told him about the dreadful blues and how it triggers off. He just being polite and shrugged it off. And then it happen. just because he was late home for dinner and wanted to take a bath first before holding his baby girl, his wife was in tears. He didn't that there was anything wrong in that. As he has done that everyday. But he remembered what I told him. He immediately stop what he was doing and comforted his wife. He did everything her ways that night. He said a big thank you to me for highlighting a would-be big fight at home. Sorry to ask about you...are you married and have kids yourself? If not, you can never understand what a young mother has to go thru with babies and blues. One other thing, has anyone prayed to God and ask Him to break the bondage of the evil one? You see, when things go well in life, the devil isn't very happy. He will try anything to disrupt family life. He will put evil thoughts in your mind. He will cause family members to rebuke you and put you to shame. You know you have fallen into his trap when you start to question God and push blames on your SIL or anyone close to you. God allows the Devil to play games with us. So that we will be driven to a point that we know that we need to seek God for everything. You need to be at peace with God, and break the bondage the devil has over your family. you need God to provide you the strength each day. I can pray for you. But I can't solve your problem. You need to do this with God. Since you are a Christian, it will be easier for you to speak to your SIL. Look beyond her faults as a mother to her kids, sit with her, spend time with her. And then pray with her. Offer help to mind your nephews for a day while she sort out her life with your bro. She needs to be at peace with herself and God, then she can reason out what she needs to do for her marriage and her young kids. However, it takes 2 hands to clap. Be bold and kapo (like me..) and talk with your bro. It could be his fault that he didn't spend enough time with her or the kids. A breakdown in marriage can be made up of many things. It does not mean that Christian couples don't quarrel. We do. It does not mean we are less hurtful. We are just the same with others. Take heart, look to God, seek God to deliver you from this bondage. And know that God rules and reigns over light and darkness, in the Heavens above, the earth here and even the lowest of Hell. There will be breakthrough..only God provides, know it, and believe it. God Bless GinaC |
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