To Lisa about leaving husband for another
I left my husband and love another man (Lisa)
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Lisa, My husband left me 13 years ago. I have done much study and prayer over the years and I would like to share with you about what I have learned. My husband claimed to be a Christian when he left me and has since remarried and still claims to be a Christian. Many things he has said and done and allowed his wife to say and do have been painful. I did not want a divorce and did my best to prevent it but to no avail.
I think the first thing that happened(and I don't know your entire story) is that you allowed yourself to get drawn into a relationship before you decided to divorce. If there was any intimacy, this is adultery regardless if the marriage was good or not. God does not want divorce but allows it. Better to get out than to be in an abusive relationship. Since the separation, if you have been living with this man, you are still in a state of sin and need to move out. God has a hard time breaking through sin if the person is still in it. Once a person has joined themselves sexually to someone they have attached themselves and have become one flesh. This is an unnatural attachment and is as painful as a divorce. If you are truly seeking God, you need to break it off so God can work better. He can still work but it will be more painful and will take longer if you still maintain a physical relationship. You can do without the physical until you get the spiritual taken care of. Jesus speaks of divorce, read those in the gospels. Also, if your husband is still speaking cruelly to you, I wouldn't go back to him either since you have broken that covenant. Bottom line, continue to seek God. It is possible to get past this and God is faithful to help you do so.
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