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terror in the nite (mary)
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Dear Mary
However difficult it is, you must get outside help - either from your pastor, or from a counsellor. It is best your husband also seeks help with you, but if he refuses (which may be the case), you still must get help for your own sake. Counselling is not a miracle cure, but it will help you mentally and emotionally to be able to vent your anger and frustration at someone. That is the first step to dealing with a problem such as yours. After you have cooled down a little, then you will hopefully be in a clearer state of mind to deal with the problem at your hands. Since your parents-in-law and husband seem to be in denial, you must take matters into your own hands. It is pointless to depend on them. You must make the first step in seeking help. Do not feel weak or victimised by them; be strong and face the problem in its face. Also, find out what your options are if your husband and his family turns abusive and threatens you physically. The counsellor will be able to help you in this. Finally, remember that depression and other mental illnesses can be treated, but it takes a lot of patience and can be trying on the helper. It is necessary for your husband to be diagnosed by a psychiatrist, but there's always a mental block in Singapore about Woodbridge. Don't fall for that yourself, and aim to persuade your husband to seek for medical advice at Woodbridge. (You can also get information on medical depression and other psychiatric illnesses from the net.) But first, please contact a counselling service. -eveline
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